Christmas equals family, love, peace, happiness, joy, prosperity, sense of security. Or, does it??
Unfortunately for many the holiday season is not as merry as it should be. People are "thrown together" often for days and are supposed to be happy and loving. In reality these exact same people have been avoiding each other all year. Truth is that many clients experience this "intense family time" as disappointing, stressful and even traumatic. Old hurts, trauma and grief are re triggered and health problems re surface which had seemed to be under control. Relived trauma makes us feel helpless and stuck.
Here are some suggestions how to maneuver your way through these challenges:
- Create new traditions for yourself so you in future you have new memories and assosiations with Christmas
- Acknowledge your past experience but then make a conscious decision to be present in the NOW and look forward to the future
- For when negative emotions are triggered (e.g. being around certain people and their behaviour, comments, actions) have a go to thought, or action which will bring you back to the now. For example: Remove yourself, play a certain song (have it saved and ready to play), repeat an affirmation over and over again in your mind, visualize letting go, forgiving, loving yourself or practice mindfulness or breathing techniques which you can use when needed
Be kind and loving and respectful towards yourself and others. Life is too short to survive through it. You deserve to live it!